Sunday, March 29, 2009

Of when mamma lost her temper

As most folks will tell you, mamma is the type of mealy mouthed creature who couldn't say boo to a rabbit. Brat has that figured out and mamma has been at the receiving end of much outrage and outright disobedience and open revolt in recent times. Incidents escalating over the past couple of weeks to the point where mamma's normally tepid simmer had reached boil. Of course, kind folks who had in previous incarnations been at the receiving end of mamma's nuclear level blow outs had also conspired to keep the brat ignorant about the need to avoid mammas temperature escalate byond boiling point.
It was a long Sunday. Mamma was already gritty eyed with the loss of an afternoon nap. And that, as Pappa would have informed brat, had he cared to ask, was treading on dangerous waters. A mamma un napped on a weekend is a mamma who is as surly as grizzly poked out of a nice winter hibernation by insensitive trekkers wandering into caves. The brat went down for his dance class. Surly mamma paced while he was put through his paces. And when it was done Mamma hoped to get back home to a steaming cup of tea. The brat, living upto his moniker, had other ideas. Maybe life would have been different had I called him the angel child on the blog. Maybe he would have sat still and paid attention and stayed put when requested.
Anyway, the brat raced up to the garden. Which is blazing five pm full creek side exposed zilch shade area of sun fury. Mamma yelled and yelled but brat was having none of it. Refused to get his self back to shadier precints. The sun settled squat on the horizon and sank down while mamma shielded her non sunblock applied face with a puny extension cord board.
The lights in the garden came on. Still no truck and outright disobedience. And open and loud defiance of instructions to get down from the slide right now. And as a coup de resistance outright ignoring of mamma. Finally simmer reached boil, mamma grabbed a surprised brat as he zoomed to the bottom of the slide and planted him some hurting ones on the butt. Forgetting her regular rule of not whacking the critter in front of his peers. And dragged him begging and pleading back home. And refusing to speak to him.
The brat was horrified. Not by the whacks, this mamma has given harder ones but by the complete rejection. Blabbered apologies. Clutched mamma's feet. Begged her to speak with him. Mamma fed him, changed him, all without speaking a word to him. Finally, the brat sat silently in a corner sobbing. "Mammaz nodtalkin to me," he replied when the Pappa went to enquire.
Mamma finally took him on her knee and gave him a talk about why it is not done to ignore mamma. To be openly defiant. In public. Or at home. And how it feels when someone ignores you.
Did the message sink in? Mamma doesn't know. She hopes it did. What she does know is that those tears hurt her much more than the brat would ever know.


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15 opinions:

Mama - Mia said...

oh well! why does this look like my future?! just this weekend there was one hour of crying because we tol the cub to say please! gee!

memyhubbynbaby said...

I absolutely love reading your posts. I can visualize the entire scene, you describe it so well.
Its really sad to see our babies cry :(

Shobana said...

Oh-oh! I hope so too, that the little mister learnt his lesson.

Sue said...

Oh you poor babies. Yes, I think it'll do him no harm to connect your good behaviour to him in public to his good behaviour to you in public.

Hugs to both Mamma and brat.

Indian Home Maker said...

I had to come here from my reader to comment today ... made me teary eyed too. My son was the same. Hugs to you both Kiran. You are a fabulous mom, raising an adorable brat!

Subhashree said...

Aww.. hugs to Lady K and the brat K.

Divs said...

Awww...it does hurt sooooo much to see our babies' tears :( Hugs to you and brat...hope you'll never have to do this again.

GettingThereNow said...

K, I think what you did was necessary under the circumstances. My heart did break upon reading how he apologized :(

OrangeJammies said...

Meano. Such a cutie he is too. Okay, you're actually pretty fantastic. But still. Meano.

karmickids said...

Mamma mia: *Offers tissue box* welcome to the guilt trip club.

mmhnb: Yup. Especially when we cause the crying.

Shobhana: He'd better.

Sue: *Repeats* How did this child get so wise?

IHM, Subha: :)

Divs: Hope so too!

Cee: So did mine, trust me.

Jammie: Three hours I gave him. Three hours of open rebellion in a public place....

Andy said...

Oh thats what hapd to this Mamma too. Sunshine in a fit of anger kicked her plate out of my hand. It broke and the fud that she shd have eaten was lying on the floor. Mamma decided that she will not speak to Sunshine(who btw is 3 years old)till she is aplogized to. Dad tried to explain to Sunshine who was too stunbborn to give in. She tried being her charming best and shower me with Kisses. With great will power and i resisted. It took her a full 40 min to finally understand that nothing but an apology would work and she made that apology. I was only too glad to accept it and forgive.

Wonder how 40 min seems eternity with the kid while one had done the silent treatment thing to spouse and sibling for week and months without feeling too bad.

hey this is almost a blog!!

Opaline said...

It never bothered me much when I was a kid and my mother declared a cold war on me. I'd do one better and ignore her too and she'd mostly always give in first. But then I never troubled my mother this badly.

Srin.

eve's lungs said...

Lady K - well done . As Srin says I always gave in (:

NainaAshley said...

Silence works! I had a similar situation with apple just last week. Instead of scolding i decided to stop taking to her. she was so upset and promised to listen to me within 5 mins. Also she remembered the lesson and did not repeat the behaviour next time. I know it feels bad to do this to your precious child but sometimes one has to do it.

karmickids said...

Andy: Thats us mammas. We guilt trip selves over everything.

Opaline: Im sure you wouldnt have been one millionth close to the brat's level of misbehavior.

eveslungs: I'm a mean mommie. You are a softie.

Naina: Yup it works, but it is so heartbreaking isnt it.