Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Carrying his own bags

I must be one of the few moms who still continues to go collect the brat from school. A few other mothers still do. For a major part though, the brat's classmates and friends either go home by bus or van or have the drivers collect them.
The scene during dispersal time is quite chaotic what with the van drivers and the drivers of individual students elbowing the few moms around to get to the kids they have to collect. But that's not what this post is about.
Yesterday, the brat emerged from his ground floor class and shrugged his bag off his shoulders and handed it to me nonchalantly.
"What?" I sputtered. "Why are you giving me your bag?"
"Everybody's mamma and driver carries dere bag. Oney you make me carry my bag."
I put said bag right on his back and prodded him along the few steps to the car and informed him in no uncertain terms that he is meant to carry his own school bag, given that he barely does have any distance to carry it anyway, and it isn't really heavy with any school books.
Not so pleasant flashback to my days as a student when I had to tote bleddy stuffed to the gills, back bending bag weighing some obscene amount which one never weighed back in those days, but just lumped around without complaining, me specifically, from age nine toting it meself from Goregaon to Bandra, through crowded BEST buses, a long walk to the bus stops either way. It would never even have occurred to me to hand my bag over to my mother to carry it for me the few occasions she accompanied me.
I looked around. Kids were walking around with their parents holding their school bags and tiffin bags, or their drivers holding the bags for them. The brat settled into the car seat, his bag on his shoulders. I think he needs to learn to carry his stuff around himself. I would dread to think he grew up into the Ugly Creature who expects folk around him to carry stuff he is perfectly capable of carrying himself.

9 opinions:

Swati said...

Yeah even I have seen parents carrying their kids school bags , which are not even heavy with any books. I wonder why.

Our parents never carried ours and nor did we carry Aryan's. We do carry his daycare bag for him since thats little bigger and heavier for him to carry , but never the school bag.

He sometimes crib on fridays when the bag is heavy with homework but then also we manage to convince him to carry it.

R's Mom said...

Oh I so agree to you Kiran...R has just started nursery..I carry her bag only when we get into and get out of the BEST bus to reach her school bus stop..after that she carries it..of course somedays when she is really tired or looks a bit low, I do carry it..but its better to get her used to it...

Anonymous said...

When I started reading your post, was almost going to give up as I assumed it was again about the 'heavy bag'stuff that has been done to death and while at it, also killed any possible solutions. However what followed was a very refreshing perspective and a practice that I'd follow for sure, albeit making sure my daughter's bag is not loaded beyound her capacity to carry. Kudos! And if your brat like to collect Cricket Attax, you can give me a shout, Cheers! @mukesh_jagwani

runa said...

Reminds me of something I had written a long time ago after being bugged seeing the same thing:

http://arrbee.wordpress.com/2003/12/01/53/

Anu said...

Oh! I get this all the time too..."Amma why do I have to carry my own bag when everyone else's mom carries it for them?" I have simply told him that it is HIS bag and that HE needs to carry it.. I am NOT carrying it for him! and he comes home by bus.. which drops him right at our gate.. all he needs it carry it upstairs!!! and they dont even have to carry books! books come home just once a fortnight!

justanothermommy said...

I do agree with you.

But on the flip side, how do you teach them, if they saw someone carrying bags and their own hands were free, that they should offer to carry some to help them out?

karmickids said...

Swati: Good to hear that.

R's Mom: :)

Mukesh: Thank you!

Runa: Very nice, thanks for sharing.

Anu: Absolutely. A little weight for a little distance wont bend their backs.

justanothermommy: You teach them by making them carry your stuff if their hands were free and yours were full, I'm presuming. :)

Itchingtowrite said...

agree kiran... on all counts

DegeSMS said...

yes it is right.