Last evening while I strolled in the park, keeping one beady eye on the child in the event that he got into fisticuffs of any sort that needed intervention I found myself near the club house of the complex, where a very audible birthday party was in progress with a DJ spinning tracks which had no business being played at a birthday party of any child under 18. Anyway. As is usual, I digress.
As I strolled in the vicinity of the entrance to the club house a mom was escorting her daughter, who couldn't have been more than 10 to the birthday party. Let me make clear at this point that I vaguely looked at the child in passing, before doing a double backward flip somersault and having my jaw clunk to the floor is shock. The child was made up with full pancake, eyeshadow, mascara, blush, lipstick with gloss. Hair extensions. Glitter eyeshadow. It gets worse. She was wearing a fitted strappy tube dress which was saved from being indecent because, well, she was not as they put it kindly, a haaalthy child. She was wearing gladiator styled heels which should have never been manufactured in kiddie sizes, unless of course, these were picked up in Bangkok where everything is only available in kiddy sizes.
To say I was appalled would be to state that the Titanic was a tug boat with a single passenger on board. I see this all around me. Parents are in some sort of freaking hurry to have their little girls grow up into beauty queens. The fashion industry is not helping either. I had just about finished sputtering into my morning coffee reading about how parents actually defended retail of Abercombie's push up padded bikini tops for seven year olds, and this company is a repeat offender, selling thongs for kids with Eye Candy and Wink Wink written on them. While I do wonder what kind of person could even conceptualise such clothing for children, I wonder more about what kind of parent would actually buy them and make their child wear said thong and push up padded bikini top. Ah well, apparently one lives right in my building complex.
This premature sexualisation of young girls is becoming an epidemic. I mean, as a child, I revolted firmly against being stuffed into frilly pink ribbon and laced frocks, but I was in shorts and tshirts for most part of the day except on social occasions when I was spit polished and poured into clothes that were well, clothes a child should wear, not someone about to start dancing round a pole.
If I had a daughter would I let her wear make up and hooker shoes at ten. I would probably shoot myself in the head before I let her step out of the home looking like that. And would I, as a mother of an eight year old, let him wear a thong to the beach saying Eye Candy? I think not.
There are inappropriate clothes for kids available out there, and the kids probably think they look cool and like their favourite film star when they wear it. That's why I think we were plonked on the planet as parents to wag the finger and steer them non negotiably towards more age appropriate choices.
Let our kids remain kids for as long as they need to be kids. They have their entire lives to be grown up and dress grown up. And what kind of message are these young girls getting when they wear these clothes, if you want attention, this is what you need to look like. Never mind that the attention is not exactly the kind of attention which would be appropriate. And for god's sake, don't slap on that make up on kids attending weddings and other functions. Little girls with full make up is kind of freaky. And inappropriate too.